The business of death - lessons learned

Sunday, June 26th, 2011
John David Head shares some valuable lessons learned from the recent passing of his father. Key points include:
  1. Paperwork is either your saving grace or your worse nightmare.
  2. Salespeople at cemeteries are the new low of low
  3. Emotional Attachment to things can make you do silly things
  4. Documents, Lists, and Storage
  5. Remember that even with death, your life must go on
To John's point #2, I am reminded of the time my brother an law and I accompanied my wife and her mother to help them select a casket for Kathy's father. I gritted my teeth through most of the sales pitch and attempted upsells (e.g. extra padding in the pillow, the kind of satin lining in the casket, or the type of plating on the fittings) but when the salesman got to the part about the 25 year warranty on the hardware I became (quietly) livid. It was all I could do not to burst out and ask why not a lifetime warranty? - it would have been just as valuable.

Apart from honoring your loved ones and letting them know they are loved - it's key to be prepared and ask the tough questions up front so you won't be alone making difficult decisions later. I think John provides a good starting point. From a spiritual perspective, there are other important questions to ask, sooner than later. The answers to these can provide great assurance and comfort during such times.

I appreciate John's willingness to share his experience. You can read his blog post here.

Discussion/Comments (2):

The business of death - lessons learned

Thanks for the comments Eric. I know you mentioned the spiritual piece, but I purposely didn't include anything spiritual or religious in my post. I wanted to make sure people read it without any bias attached.

Posted at 06/28/2011 8:58:55 by John Head

re: The business of death - lessons learned

Understood. I know that your purpose was to include practical lessons learned from your recent experience -- and you did. I wish you the best as you cope with the personal side of your loss. Thanks for sharing!

Posted at 06/28/2011 11:10:53 by Eric Mack

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